How to Survive Around Negative People
There are cosmic blackholes that suck matter. And then there are human blackholes that suck your positive energy. It gets increasingly difficult to work with such negative people in your team or your workplace. Their day isn’t complete unless they have burst your bubble at least twice or rained on your parade. Before they polarize you negatively too, you need to adopt a certain attitude to deal with the negative vibes that emanate from them. Ignoring pessimists is not going to solve your problems. After all, you will face many of their kind and you need a game plan to ward off these energy vampires.
Negative people tend to exaggerate issues and harp about the same problems for hours and days. They usually make a mountain out of a molehill. Lend them a listening ear if need be or offer advice and support. But if they continue talking about the bad side of the coin, then disengage. Try to switch topics. If they adopt a negative tune here too, then just hmm and haw throughout the conversation. You don’t have to contribute to the negativity.
Be in a Group
It can be extremely draining to converse with a negative individual. Even a 30 minute conversation can have you down in the dumps for 2-3 hours before the effect begins to wear off. Invite someone else in the conversation too. In fact, the more, the better. This way, the foul energy will be divided and you will not be the only one on the receiving end of the spectrum. More people can make the topic more diverse and light and may even bring some positivity in the pessimistic person.
It’s Nothing Personal
Often, you will come across people and colleagues who will tend to drop negative remarks on whatever you do or find faults, flaws and loopholes in your projects. If you observe these people closely, you will realize that this is how they behave with everyone, even with their friends. There’s nothing wrong with you, neither do they have an agenda against you. That’s just how they are—critical.
Don’t spend more time with them than necessary
You eventually become the person who you spend most time with. So be mindful of their company. Before they infect you permanently with pessimism, learn to say no where you can help it. Avoid hanging out with them often or hang out in groups so the effect is minimized overall.
If you delve deep, negative people appear negative as a means of coping with the lack of love and positivity in their life. If you feel you can make a difference in any area, try to reach out and help. Maybe they are struggling to achieve something but failing at it continuously and hence, the negative attitude. If you have identified the root cause and you think you can help, then go for it.
A Selection of Negative People Quotes
“Save your skin from the corrosive acids from the mouths of toxic people. Someone who just helped you to speak evil about another person can later help another person to speak evil about you.” ~ Israelmore Ayivor
“Protect your good image from the eyes of negative viewers, who may look at your good appearance with an ugly fiendish eye, and ruin your positive qualities with their chemical infested tongues.” ~ Michael Bassey Johnson
“You cannot expect to live a positive life if you hang with negative people.” ~ Joel Osteen
“Some people grumble that roses have thorns; I am grateful that thorns have roses.” ~ Alphonse Karr
“Stop letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings and emotions.” ~ Will Smith
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