The society tells us that if we are a certain way, only then are we special, perfect, worthy, beautiful, and amazing. We base our worth on what people think about us, the way they treat us, and the way they see us. We criticize our self for not meeting the societal standards. Our self-esteem and self-confidence is shattered, and we start comparing it with other people’s worth in those aspects as well.
But is that all we are? Are we only beautiful if our skin is a certain shade? Are we only intelligent if our grade is A? Are we only successful if our job gives us a 6-figure pay? Are we only special if we act a certain way? I don’t think so. I think everyone is extraordinary in their own way. We all our incredible, beautiful, strong, kind, and awesome, and we should not let the society or anyone else tell us otherwise!
There are times that unfair criticism of people makes us question ourselves. Is there something wrong with me that they treated me that way? However, if you know how to deal with unfair criticism, you are less likely to take it personally and let it affect you because you have a control over your emotions and the way you feel. Here are a few simple ways to effectively deal with unfair criticism, so it does not affect your peace of mind.
It’s not about you
Rather than questioning yourself after others treat you badly, why not question their aim, motivation, and happiness level? We need to learn how to separate ourselves from the unfair criticism that is directed our way. This is not about who we are as humans, it is about the judgment others make on the basis of our behavior, actions, or appearance in a certain situation. It is relatively easier to let go and move on when the self and criticism are detached.
Don’t Let your Self-Esteem Take the Blow
We should not let the unfair criticism of people lower our confidence or self-worth. What people think of you represents their own shortcomings rather than who you are as a person. So rather than thinking negative about it continuously, you can try and incorporate positive and rational thinking patterns, to make yourself believe that your actions were justified.
Do not retaliate
Retaliation is a fight and flight response naturally built within us. We do not like people getting away with ruining our day. We prefer saying something back to make their day worse too. But what will be the difference between both the individuals then? So control your anger because no matter what, you cannot control the behaviors of others. What you can do is control your reaction towards them. As they say, “No one can make you feel bad about yourself without your consent.” So avoid such people who threaten to ruin your peace of mind.
Decide for yourself whose opinion matters and whose does not. If you know yourself well enough, then you will not give a second thought to what other people have to say. Just be yourself, and make wise choices!
A Selection of Special Quotes
“Sometimes your light shines so bright that it blinds people from seeing who you really are.” ~ Shannon L. AlderWe all make a beauty so wonderfully true.
We are special and different, and just the same, too!So whenever you look at your beautiful skin, from your wiggling toes to your giggling grin…Think how lucky you are that the skin you live in, so beautifully holds the “You” who’s within.” ~ Michael Tyler,
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