Fighting Your Demons: The Story of Doubt and Delay

Fighting Your Demons: The Story of Doubt and Delay


Fighting Your Demons: The Story of Doubt and Delay

Do you know what stops you from achieving your dreams?

Millions of negative thoughts start sprouting up in our head as soon as we think about starting something new. The fear of failure paralyzes us to the extent that we never move out from our comfort zones. As a result, we all go through life without achieving the big dreams we dreamed and the many goals we had once set for the future.

Arthur Montgomery lived in the same fear for forty odd-years of his life. He was a chef in a lawyer’s suit. He spent every day in the courtrooms prosecuting criminals and fighting off crime on the streets.

However, he could never fight against his inner demons.

At home when he looked in the mirror he saw a failure. His haggard features and lifeless eyes mocked him. He could hear his reflection taunt him,

“Are you happy playing the by your father’s playbook?’

Arthur washed his face and tried to shake off the wistful dreams that haunted him at night. It was true he had given up a culinary career to run the family law firm.

‘Women cook my boy. Men hunt!’ his father had said.

On Arthur’s part, he too didn’t fight against the rules. He feared that rebellion would only lead to failure. He wasn’t even sure if he was good enough to succeed in the field of his choice.

At the breakfast table the next morning, Arthur was still dreaming of ‘what could have been’. He thought about the sun-lit vineyards, the intoxicating aroma of freshly picked tomatoes. He thought about the Italian restaurant he had conjured up in his dreams.

“Did you always want to be a lawyer, Papa?’’ asked ten-year-old Madeline.

‘’ Not, really,’ he replied with a heavy sigh.

‘’ Did Doubt and Delay stop you from following your dream?’’ Madeline wondered aloud.

‘’What do you mean?’’ Arthur inquired intrigued.

On that cue, little Madeline narrated a story she had learned at school. It gave Arthur the courage to resign and join an apprenticeship under a chef.

This is the story that changed his life:

‘Every day we wake up to hear Doubt and Delay discussing our plans. They are bad thoughts that weigh the happy ones down. They dictate our life and strip down our confidence.

Doubt says, “What if you fail?  Are you really sure about this?’’

Delay adds, “This isn’t the right time my friend. You don’t have the resources or the experience to do this.’’

If you aren’t strong enough you agree with them. Then years go by and you realize that you are stuck in a cage built by the negativity they fed you. That you no longer have time to achieve the big things you always wanted!

When in reality all you had to do was say no to them. You can actually say no right now and they won’t bother you anymore!’

Inspired by this quote:

‘’Our destiny is decided by how well we know our demons of Doubt and Delay, how well we defend against them, and how many battles we win against them each day of our lives.” ~ Brendon Burchard

 

’Our destiny is decided by how well we know our demons of Doubt and Delay, how well we defend against them, and how many battles we win against them each day of our lives.” ~ Brendon Burchard


A Selection of Doubt and Delay Quotes

“Some of our important choices have a time line. If we delay a decision, the opportunity is gone forever. Sometimes our doubts keep us from making a choice that involves change. Thus an opportunity may be missed.” ~ James E. Faust


“Your goals, minus your doubts, equal your reality.” ~ Ralph Marston


“We all have our ways of handling fear and managing trying; jumping in or climbing down, a direct approach or a delay, joyful or miserable, a spirit of adventure, or God help me, get this thing over with.” ~ Kristin Armstrong


“Doubts never end. If one doubt is removed, another takes its place. It is like removing the leaves of a tree one by one. Even if all the leaves are clipped off, new ones grow. The tree itself must be uprooted.” ~ Ramana Maharshi


“Change your life today. Don’t gamble on the future, act now, without delay.” ~ Simone de Beauvoir


“You may delay, but time will not.” ~ Benjamin Franklin

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All Work and No Play

All Work and No Play


All Work and No Play

All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy – you must be familiar with this proverb but do you follow it through in your life? The importance of a balanced life cannot be stressed enough. Working all the time without giving yourself a chance to relax every once in a while can make your life dull and boring. Moreover, consistent stress is also harmful to the body and brings about a number of physical and mental health issues.

Read the story of a college boy to see why it is important to pamper yourself and make time for fun and entertaining activities in your life.

Once upon a time, there was a young boy named Tim.

Throughout school, he proved himself to be an exceptionally good student. After graduating school with good grades, he took admission in a college. He always stood first in class and topped in the academic quizzes. The only lacking in Tim’s life was that he never had time for anything but study.

He loved traveling but never got around to actually doing it because he was always preparing for one test or another. He would never hang out with his fellows and abstained from participating in extracurricular activities like games and dramatic. He gave up everything and spent all his time studying only.

At the end of the college term, a job fair was organized. Multinational companies visited the college to recruit the best students. The entire college expected Tim to bag the best job but to everyone’s surprise, that did not happen!

Tim was astounded and asked for an explanation.

The person conducting the interviews explained that Tim has successfully passed all the academic screening tests but he did poorly in the interviews. He said, “It is correct that you have commendable scores and a very good academic record but bookish knowledge alone is not enough to strive in the industry. You have failed to reflect any leadership qualities. Furthermore, you are clearly not a team player. Boy, you are very smart but if you wish to have a successful career, you must be adaptable and flexible.”

Tim realized his flaws.

Despite his excellent academic record, he was not an all-rounder. He decided to work hard on his flaws and make more time for himself. He started living a balanced life. He went on a trip and also started to hang out with his fellows. Eventually, he began to enjoy his life and was much more satisfied.

By the end of the next semester, Tim was a changed man. His grades were still good and he had a pleasant personality. He ended up getting multiple offers from multinational companies and his dream of having a successful career was fulfilled.

Moral: Follow your dreams with all your heart but don’t be too hard on yourself. Always make time for yourself and don’t forget to indulge in fun activities every once in a while.

 



A Selection of All Work and No Play Quotes


“All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy – and Jill a wealthy widow.” ~ Evan Esar


“As if a man’s soul were not too small to begin with, they have dwarfed an narrowed theirs by a life of all work and no play; until here they are at forty, with a listless attention, a mind vacant of all material of amusement, and not one thought to rub against another, while they wait for the train.” ~ Robert Louis Stevenson


“All work and no play doesn’t just make Jill and Jack dull, it kills the potential of discovery, mastery, and openness to change and flexibility and it hinders innovation and invention.” ~ Joline Godfrey


“You may try your experiment for a week and see how you like it. I think by Saturday night you will find that all play and no work is as bad as all work and no play.” ~ Louisa May Alcott

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