Sometimes relationships are not always smooth; someone once said “as long as we are not sisters and brothers, misunderstandings will always occur.” Most of the times, we have sacrificed a lot and given much to a relationship that when it hits the rocks, we are afraid it may never work out. Well, it’s not time yet. Try the following ways and you might be surprised that you have actually fixed it!
This is the greatest asset partners can ever use. When you keep the communication path open and freely express your feelings, the other partner will get exactly what your problem is and will act upon it. This will prevent premature conclusions too. Do not forget to tell your partner that you are sorry and make sure you mean it. These words are powerful and can change any situation you are in.
LOOK FOR THE PROBLEM
Identify correctly what broke your relationship then act on it soonest. It is easier to ask for forgiveness when you know where you are wrong. It will also give your partner an impression that you have known where you are wrong and will not repeat the mistake. See to it that you correct the problem for it is only through this that he/she will forgive you.
OWN THE PROBLEM
Generally, everyone contributes in tearing down a relationship. Even if you feel that you are not the one on the wrong side, swallow your pride and accept it. Blaming each other would do worse than good. The moment everyone sees him/herself as the cause of the problem and try to change, the healing process begins.
Yes, forgive. You should be able to forgive irrespective of the magnitude of the wrong done to you. Avoid giving conditions of forgiveness. It is also wise to forget. Bringing up issues of the past that you had already forgiven will widen the rift.
PUT SOME EFFORT
Show your partner that you are uncomfortable with the breakup. You can do this by sending texts like ‘I miss you’ or organizing for a retreat at a romantic place where you will take the opportunity to explain yourself and request that you get back to each other.
NEVER TALK ILL OF YOUR PARTNER
This is quite common with jealous partners who cannot take it that they are actually breaking up. They go around telling friends how their partner was bad and unfair. This is not good. What you should do is to relax and give it some time. You might be surprised that both of you acted hurriedly in anger. When this subsides, you should be able to get back to each other.
You can alternatively seek help from a professional or a close friend or relative of your friend who can reconcile the two of you. This should be the last option as the above six have been proven to work 98%.
A Selection of Relationship Quotes
“True love is usually the most inconvenient kind.” ~ Kiera Cass
“I had a boyfriend who told me I’d never succeed, never be nominated for a Grammy, never have a hit song, and that he hoped I’d fail. I said to him, ‘Someday, when we’re not together, you won’t be able to order a cup of coffee at the f***ing deli without hearing or seeing me.” ~ Lady Gaga
“When in a relationship, a real man doesn’t make his woman jealous of others, he makes others jealous of his woman.” ~ Steve Maraboli
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