We all opt for different strategies to cope up with bad moods. Some of us get through it using exercises and meditation, while others prefer talking it out or even having an angry spat with their spouse. Although being sad and feeling low once in a while is healthy, it can really take a blow on your relationship if you are letting it out in a negative way.
When our friends are in bad mood, we are able to offer advice to them without getting involved in the emotional ride. However, that is not the case when you are in a romantic relationship. When it comes to your partner, it is normal to get affected by their mood. This can even trigger some of our own insecurities, if you are the on the receiving end of their anger. In order to avoid this rollercoaster of emotions, here are some ways you can boost your partner’s mood, and change them back into the person you fell in love with in the first place.
1. Listen to Them
More than someone to talk to, your spouse wants someone who can listen to them. Anger tends to blind people, and they do not see rational reasoning. In such a situation, they do not want someone to tell them if what they did was right or wrong, they just want someone who can listen to them. Even in stressful situations, when people are able to just get the things that are bugging them out of their chest, they feel much better. You do not have to add your opinion in between. Just stay with them and listen.
2. Let them get their Anger Out
If your partner has the habit of letting out their emotions through an angry spat, then let them do it. However, you need to remember that it is not about you, it is about them. This way, you will not get defensive, or take their verbal fight personally.
3. Leave Them Alone
Some people prefer being on their own, reflecting on the events, and letting their mood elevate on its own accord. So do not try to cheer them up because chances are, it is going to spoil their mood even further, and your mood will also be ruined. Let them sulk for a while, if that is what they want. They will talk to you once the dark cloud has passed.
4. Offer a Thoughtful Gesture
When you know your partner is having a stressful and sad week, you can take care of them through little things and little gestures that will show them that they are loved. You can make a card, cook them their favorite food, or leave them a note to let them know they are important no matter what.
Moods are temporary, so be compassionate, wise, and patient when your partner is having a break down, and know the right time to distance yourself for a while, before you let their mood affect yours.
A Selection of Forgiveness Quotes
“Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.” ~ Oscar Wilde
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi, All Men are Brothers: Autobiographical Reflections
“To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.” ~ C.S. Lewis
“Dumbledore says people find it far easier to forgive others for being wrong than being right.” ~ J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince
“Forgiveness is the giving, and so the receiving, of life.” ~ George MacDonald
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” ~ Louis B. Smedes
“We are all on a life long journey and the core of its meaning, the terrible demand of its centrality is forgiving and being forgiven.” ~ Martha Kilpatrick
“To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness.” ~ Robert Muller
“Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.” ~ Mark Twain
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” ~ Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience
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